SOCIAL PRESSURES AND INFLUENCES SURROUNDING ADOPTION – PART
In a tweet from Buckingham Palace, the world recently learned of the most recent royal birth.
“Her Royal Highness, The Duchess of Cambridge, was safely delivered of a son at 1101hrs.
The baby weighs 8lbs 7oz. The Duke of Cambridge was present for the birth.
Her Royal Highness and her child are both doing well.”
While the world celebrates the birth of an heir to the throne of England, unplanned births are not so widely celebrated. In fact, when a woman in the United States experiences an unplanned pregnancy, there can be tremendous peer pressure, social pressure, and even family pressure to abort the baby. “Why would you carry a baby to term just to give it away?” or “You don’t need to put your body through a pregnancy, since you can’t parent” are just some of the comments uttered when a woman talks about an unplanned pregnancy with those around her.
Why is our society so bent on destroying children when there are so many families who want them and would give them a good home? Good question. As women, we should support other women to have safe, healthy pregnancies, even if they are not prepared to parent. As a society, we have lost our way. We have been brainwashed into believing that when experiencing a surprise pregnancy, terminating a life is somehow better than giving life to the baby – and giving the gift of life to a waiting family.
Peer pressure can and does make a difference. When a woman seeks counsel from those she knows and trusts and even family she holds dear, and they tell her to just “get rid of it”, she is vulnerable and seeking a solution. Sometimes, that sounds like the easiest solution. It may be for her in the short term, but it rarely is in the long term. Certainly, her “choice” isn’t the choice the baby would make. We all come from an embryo. We all develop from a zygote. And yet, we don’t view pre-term babies as human. How is that?
Rarely do those giving advice have any real knowledge about adoption. There are myths and assumptions that haven’t been true in 50 years, if ever. As a society, we need to do a better job letting women know that it’s morally and socially acceptable to place a child for adoption – and that it is a better option than abortion for all involved.
Are you wondering if adoption is the right choice for you? Check out some of our hopeful waiting families or ask a counselor to walk you through the process.