My Birth Control Failed: What do I do?

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Don’t you hate it when you try to be responsible, and things still happen? That’s the way it is with contraception. No birth control provides 100% protection. Your first step is to confirm you are actually pregnant. If yes, it’s time to discuss your options.

Have You Confirmed Your Pregnancy?

That seems like a silly question if your period is late and you got a positive pregnancy test. But did you know as many as 26% of all pregnancies end in a miscarriage? It is possible to get a positive pregnancy test even after a miscarriage.

To confirm a pregnancy, you need an ultrasound. Here in Columbia, MO, A Gift of Hope Adoptions offers a free ultrasound if you get a positive pregnancy test result from the clinic. An ultrasound can detect if your pregnancy is growing normally or if you have had a miscarriage.

Ultrasound can also determine how far along you are in your pregnancy and its location. If it’s not located in your uterus, it could be life-threatening. Don’t skip this valuable step.

What Are My Options?

You have three options for your pregnancy: abortion, making an adoption plan, or parenting. Missouri banned abortion unless the pregnancy threatens the life of the mother.


The FDA encourages women not to buy abortion drugs online because many sites come from foreign countries. There are other restrictions, too. The number of weeks you have been pregnant, other medications you currently take, and certain diseases can rule out the use of the abortion pill.

Although they don’t provide or refer for abortion, you can talk with the client advocates at A Gift of Hope Adoptions to get more information about abortion procedures, side effects, and potential risks.

Making an Adoption Plan

Have you considered placing the child for adoption? Many women make this choice when faced with an unplanned pregnancy. Adoption has changed drastically in the last several decades.

Today, an expectant woman or birth mother chooses the potential adoptive parents. She views the bios of couples to find the perfect ones to raise her child.

She also decides the type of lifestyle she wants her child to have. Is it important that your child be raised in the city or on a farm? What about siblings, pets, hobbies, education, etc.? You can find the couple that perfectly matches.

A Gift of Hope Adoptions has access to couples from around the country, or you can look at some of the potential adoptive couples here. You can be confident the couples we represent are qualified and ready to welcome your child.

All your medical and legal expenses can be paid when you choose adoption. Plus, there may be assistance for other pregnancy-related expenses.

Adoption is a challenging decision, which is why you need to work with a reputable, licensed agency like A Gift of Hope Adoptions. Our adoption counselors explain the process to you thoroughly and see that you receive the emotional counseling you need. No one will pressure you to choose this option.


In counseling you about adoption, our caseworkers can help you determine if it would be possible for you to parent your child. We offer several referrals to agencies to assist you if this is your choice. My Life Clinic also provides referrals and parenting classes.

Single parenting can be difficult, but it is possible with proper support and determination. Be sure to ask yourself essential questions, such as:

  • Will my parents or partner support me?
  • Can I finish school or continue my career?
  • Who will help me physically and emotionally?
  • Where will I live?
  • Can I afford to raise a child?

Contact A Gift of Hope Adoptions

As the reality of your unexpected pregnancy sinks in, know that people are ready and willing to assist you. Once you’ve confirmed your pregnancy, contact us. A phone call doesn’t mean you’re committing to adoption. We know this is a big decision that takes time.

We can answer your questions and help you determine your next step. Let us know how we can help you.

This blog is for informational purposes only. This is not legal or medical advice. While we try our best to reflect current laws with accuracy at the time of writing, please note the laws can change over time.

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Elizabeth and A Gift of Hope have been a touchstone during our adoption process. Having had issues with a previous agency – Elizabeth was a breath of fresh air! Reassuring, supportive and empathetic. We are so in love with our daughter and thank A Gift of Hope everyday for her!

AGOHA is a great agency that has provided amazing support and guidance though the adoption process. Would highly recommend AGOHA!

Our family has used their services for adoption. It’s wonderful dealing with someone who is looking out for the whole child, not just placing kids.

A Gift of Hope Adoptions is a Godsend for so many expectant young mothers. I completely recommend this organization for anyone interested in providing a wonderful life for their soon-to-be baby. This organization is also a Godsend for those of us who cannot have our own biological children.

I have recommended A Gift of Hope Adoptions to several mother’s considering adoptions for their babies. They have been so happy to feel supported and empowered through their decision.
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“We adopted both of our sons through A Gift of Hope Adoptions. They helped us every step of the way and answered all the questions we had, and we had a lot! We would not be where we are today, with two busy boys in our family, if it wasn’t for A Gift of Hope.”

“We decided to use A Gift of Hope Adoptions because they are very personal and caring. The wait and uncertainty of adoption seemed daunting, but A Gift of Hope helped make the process go smoothly, and we couldn’t be happier with our beautiful child.”