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Can I Place My Baby for Adoption if I’m in an Abusive Relationship?

Adoption is always an option, no matter what situation you’re in. More importantly, the caring team at A Gift of Hope Adoptions wants to help you find a safe haven.

If you’re in immediate danger, call 911. You can also search for resources on the National Domestic Violence Hotline or call them at (800) 799-SAFE. To protect yourself while visiting the site, clear your browser history afterward or view the site in incognito mode.

If you’re not in immediate danger and wish to learn more about adoption, call us at (888) 564-HOPE or chat with us online.

Violence May Increase During Pregnancy

Your biggest concern, most likely, is how your abusive partner feels about your pregnancy and the prospect of placing your child for adoption. Statistics show that “30% of all domestic abuse cases begin when survivors are pregnant—and risks can increase even further after birth.”

Your abusive partner may feel like he’s losing control over you or losing your undivided attention. If your partner used sexual violence to get you pregnant, he’s hoping to make you more dependent on him.

Not only does the abuse harm you emotionally, but the physical abuse can harm both you and your baby. You are at risk for potential head and neck injuries, as well as anxiety and depression. Your baby is at a higher risk of suffering from colic, low birth weight, or premature birth.

Does My Abuser Have a Say in the Adoption?

Obtaining the biological father’s approval for an adoption is complex and varies with every situation. Missouri adoption law does require a birth father’s consent. However, there are certain circumstances where his consent can be waived.

In an abusive situation, it’s important to document the abuse. Photos or records from doctor’s visits should always be kept. For emotional abuse, keep copies of emails, texts, or voice messages.

You need to speak with a qualified adoption attorney who can advise you on your particular situation. If you need referrals, we can provide recommendations.

Let A Gift of Hope Adoptions Assist You

Not only can we help you move forward with placing your child for adoption, but we can also provide resources for safe housing, medical care, and counseling. For your safety and your baby’s, you need to leave the relationship.

We understand how difficult that can be, but we’re here to help you in any way possible. Choosing adoption for your child is a loving, selfless decision, especially when you are in an abusive relationship.

You’re protecting your child and providing a loving home. As the expectant mother or birth mother, you can choose the couple that will raise your child and have contact with them even after placement.

Contact A Gift of Hope Adoptions by filling out our confidential contact form or chatting with us online. Let us know the safest way to reach you. There is hope for a brighter future for you and your baby. Please reach out to us today.

This blog is for informational purposes only. This is not legal or medical advice. While we try our best to reflect current laws with accuracy at the time of writing, please note that the laws can change over time.

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Elizabeth and A Gift of Hope have been a touchstone during our adoption process. Having had issues with a previous agency – Elizabeth was a breath of fresh air! Reassuring, supportive and empathetic. We are so in love with our daughter and thank A Gift of Hope everyday for her!

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A Gift of Hope Adoptions is a Godsend for so many expectant young mothers. I completely recommend this organization for anyone interested in providing a wonderful life for their soon-to-be baby. This organization is also a Godsend for those of us who cannot have our own biological children.

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