Discovering an unexpected pregnancy can be quite a shock, especially when you already have other children. Like all mothers, you know the incredible amount of time, energy, and finances required to raise a family today. Adding another little one depletes your resources even more. How do you manage the stress?
Here are five suggestions for managing your recent unexpected pregnancy. If you want to bounce ideas off someone who can help, call a counselor at A Gift of Hope Adoptions. We can put you in touch with referrals to resources or discuss the possibility of placing this child for adoption. Contact them today!
1. It’s Okay to Question Your Emotions
You may feel conflicted about being pregnant once again, and that’s okay. Your emotions may run from excitement to anger to fear and back again. The key is to give yourself time to process all of it.
Take time to consider what this pregnancy means for you and your family. Talk with your partner, a friend, or a counselor who can help you work through your feelings. It’s alright not to have all the answers right now.
What you don’t want to do is rush to make a quick decision. Another pregnancy is a big step, and you should contemplate all your options.
2. Counsel With Those Who Care About You
If you and your partner are no longer together or struggling to communicate, choose someone who truly cares about you to confide in. Perhaps it’s a trusted family member or a dear friend. If necessary, speak with a local clergyman or a counselor.
You need a strong support system. Whether it’s physical support to help with childcare or emotional support, don’t shy away from asking for help. At A Gift of Hope Adoptions, we never want you to feel isolated and alone. We’re always available if you need a listening ear.
3. Review Your Resources
Before deciding how to handle your pregnancy, look closely at your current finances. If you don’t have enough resources for another child, find out what services are available in your community.
Numerous programs offer financial assistance, housing resources, food, and other necessities. We can also make referrals and assist you in getting the support you need if you want to parent your child.
4. Consider Making an Adoption Plan
Many women in your shoes have chosen to place a child for adoption. You are a loving mother and want the best for all of your children. Sometimes, that means choosing to have someone else parent your child. It’s a perfectly acceptable parenting option.
Although placing a child for adoption can be difficult emotionally, it also ensures that your child is raised in a loving, secure, two-parent family. As the expectant mother or birth mother, you can choose the couple.
You and your other children can also build a relationship with your child’s adoptive family. If you’re concerned about explaining adoption to your children, read How Do You Navigate Adoption When You Already Have Children?
Here are other benefits you may want to consider:
- You pay nothing for adoption services.
- You can meet your chosen adoptive couple before giving birth.
- All your medical and legal expenses are covered.
- We provide ongoing counseling opportunities.
5. Take Care of Yourself Physically
No matter what you decide, get the prenatal care you need. Pregnancy symptoms like nausea and fatigue are difficult in and of themselves, but adding parenting to the mix only makes it more challenging.
Take time for yourself, if possible. Get rest, eat well, and manage your stress. All of these ensure a healthier pregnancy.
Let A Gift of Hope Adoptions Help You
Whether you choose to place this child for adoption or not, contact A Gift of Hope Adoptions in Columbia, MO. Share your situation with us, and together, we can create a plan that’s best for you and all your children.
Fill out our confidential Contact Form, chat with us online, or call (888) 564-HOPE (4673). You are not alone – we’re with you all the way.